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How Does Social Media Affect Singles: How To Find Freedom

Social Media Singles

Social media has the potential for greater good even in the live of singles. We have a larger platform to speak about the good news of Christ, as often I encounter Instagram accounts that mention Bible verses or quotes from well-known Christians.

But, minds can become addicted to social media as easily as drugs.

Not to mention, sources have found correlations between social media use and mental health issues. Although beneficial in some aspects, social media carries a lot of dangers as well—especially for single Christians.

How does social media affect singles?

I’m in love with the spring and summer seasons for the warm weather, blooming flowers, and an exposed sun that had hidden itself behind a coat of clouds all winter. But I hate this time of year for two reasons:
Engagement announcements
Wedding pictures

I want to celebrate with my friends that they have found the one who their soul loves (Song of Solomon 3:4), but after scrolling through dozens of filtered pictures of wedding dress shopping trips, mason jar centerpieces, and sunlight-kissed engagement photos, a pit forms in my stomach.
Coming back to my own pictures, I scroll through them, comparing likes and wondering why I have not yet found the man who God called for me.

And I know I do not struggle with this alone.
I have heard that comparison steals all joy. After all, God warned against coveting others in the tenth commandment (Exodus 20:17). Social media opens that opportunity for jealousy and coveting to spoil a wonderful day that God has made.

What does the Bible say about social media?
This shouldn’t surprise any of us, but nothing explicit because, well, Jesus didn’t deliver the Sermon on the Mount while refreshing his Twitter feed.
Although those living during the Old and New Testaments didn’t have social media at their fingertips, they did have a few insights on byproducts that can come from social media.

Avoid idolatry: If we click our Facebook app before we click the Bible app for our daily Bible reading, we have determined which takes precedence over the other in our lives (1 Corinthians 10:14).

Use our platforms to reflect the hope we have: Those who have a large platform in the Christian community have a larger set of expectations (Luke 12:48). The larger the platform, the more eyes will watch to see what we say and do. If we have followings on social media, we need to ensure that the activities on those reflects the inner condition of our hearts.

Abstain from envy at all costs: Proverbs 14:30 says, “envy rots the bones.” If we find that envy starts to decompose our inmost being when we scroll through photos on social media (e.g. Facebook), we should consider cutting back on social media.

So, should we delete our social media altogether?
I think that depends. Understandably, some of us have valid reasons we cannot delete our accounts. But we may benefit from scaling back.

I have several friends who have to use social media to build a platform for a business, whether their own or the one that employs them. If your job requires it, that leaves very little wiggle room when it comes to quitting social media.

Even when it comes to personal social media accounts, we can sometimes only find out about the health or life events of friends via Facebook or Instagram.

Nonetheless as for personal social media accounts – especially as a single person – if you find envy and covetous attitudes infiltrating your mind and heart every time you scroll, consider scaling back.

Social media (itself) might not be the problem to singles.
The tool of social media has this magical tendency to bring out the worst in us. If you take a look at the comment section of any Facebook post, this can often reveal the core of our condition.

Some ways social media can expose us Singles:

Our desire for approval: As single Christians (even Christians not looking for a relationship at the moment) we all crave approval in one way or another. Sometimes we use social media as a way to fill the void that truly only God can fill. After all, God’s opinion matters, no one else’s.
Our desire to be heard: I beam more at an article of mine that received 100 likes as opposed to 10 because I feel as though more of an audience heard what I had to say. Although a larger platform can allow for more people to hear the Gospel, often my intentions for more likes or more page views comes from selfishness.

Our desire for human connection: Although social media has an antisocial nature, we yearn for inclusion through platforms such as Facebook. We often forget that, as Christians, we belong to the family of God. Although I love my Instagram Pod team and writers’ groups on Facebook, none of them can replicate the camaraderie that comes from our inheritance as children of God.

Consider these solutions for scaling back:
Looking at a situation where you want to take a break from social media, or at least, spend less time on social media, consider doing one of the following:

Select a Sabbath day to refrain from social media use. It’s best to do it on the same day you take a Sabbath from work activities (Exodus 20:8). This way you can dedicate that whole day to resting and enjoying God.

Time yourself. Designate a set amount of time you want to scroll and set an alarm. If you can help it, don’t cheat.

When you start to feel jealousy creeping in, exit out of the social media app immediately. Do not allow Satan to get a foothold. (Ephesians 4:27)

When you think of scrolling in the morning, click the Bible app first. How we start our mornings often determines our attitude for the rest of the day. Sometimes we may want to toggle through Instagram before moseying over to our daily devotional. But we need to put God first, even as the first event of our day. (Matthew 6:33)

Scale back entirely. This cold-turkey solution might scare some of us, but if we find that an app consumes our lives, or causes us to sin or stumble, we should cut it off (Matthew 5:29).

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What The Bible Has To Say Concerning Angels

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Angels are God’s emissaries, unseen unless when they take on a shape to reveal themselves before human beings. We don’t know what they “look” like, except they appear as grand, awe-inspiring beings not the chubby, sweet-faced infants in old artworks. People in the Bible and Christians of later times — usually speak of angels as magnificent beings — impressive figures who inspire awe but also give comfort.

Angels appear in many places in the Bible, but the most familiar passages remind us that of their role as protectors and comforters of God’s people.

The angel of the Lord protects all who respect and worship with admiration, and each of them he delivers. Psalm 34:7

When you make the lord your hiding place, if you make the Most High your refuge, no harm will defeat you; no pandemic will come near your abode. For he instructs his angels to guard you anywhere you go. They will hold you with their hands to keep you from striking your foot on a stone. Psalm 91:9-12

The minister and his associates, who were Sadducees, responded with fierce jealousy. They detained the apostles and put them in the prison. But an angel of the Lord came at night, unlocked the gates of the prison, and brought them out. Acts 5:17-19

The same night Herod was to bring him out, Peter was asleep amongst two soldiers, clasped with double cuffs and protectors before the door were securing the prison. Unexpectedly, there was a bright light in the prison, and an angel of the Lord appeared before Peter.

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The angel woke him up and said, immediately, rise up and the chains fell off his wrists. Then the angel told him, “Get dressed and put on your sandals.” And he did. Wrap your outer garment around you and follow me the angel ordered.

So Peter left the cell, following the angel. But all the time he thought it was a vision. He didn’t realize it was really happening. They passed the first and second guard posts and came to the Iron Gate to the street, and this opened to them all by itself. When they had passed through the first and second guard, they approached an iron gate which leads into the city. On its own, the gates were unlocked and they went out and immediately, the angel departed.

And Peter realized himself and said; now i am sure that the lord has brought his angel to save me from the hand of Herod and everything the Jewish people were hoping would occur. Acts 12:6-11

Beware that you not despise or feel scornful towards, or think less of these little ones. For I say unto thee that in heaven, angels are permanently in the company of my Father.” Matthew 18:10

And I tell you, whoever proclaims openly and declares that he believes in me and accepts me in the presence of men, the son of man will also proclaim, declare and accept him in the presence of the angels of God. But if anyone denies me here on earth, I will deny that person before God’s angels.” Luke 12:8-9

“There is joy in the presence of God’s angels when even one sinner repents.” Luke 15:10

Jesus and the apostle Paul promised that angels would play a key role in the Second Coming of the Lord. The angels are harvesters, gathering in the produce of God’s honest people. They are also messengers proclaiming Jesus magnificent coming on earth.

I the Son of Man will direct my angels, and they will eliminate from my Kingdom everything that causes iniquity and all who do evil, and they will throw them into the furnace and burn them. There will be lamentation and clenching of teeth. Then will the righteous shine forth like the sun in the kingdom of their father. Anyone who is willing to hear should listen and understand!” Matthew 13:41-43

Then the sign of the son man will appear in the sky, and then all the tribes of the earth will mourn and lament in anguish, and they will see the son of man coming on the clouds of heaven with power and great splendor

And he will direct his angels with the sound of a great trumpet blast, and they will come together his elected ones from the extreme ends of the earth and heaven.” Matthew 24:30-31

For the lord himself will come down from heaven with a loud cry of command, with a cry of the seraph and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And those who have left this life in Christ will resurrect first.

Then we that are alive shall at once be gathered up with the resurrected in the heavens, to see the lord and so shall we always dwell with the lord. Therefore comfort and encourage one another with these words. 1 Thessalonians 4:16-18

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Building The Trust Capacity In Difficult Times

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Building The Trust Capacity In Difficult Times

‘Don’t be afraid,’ the prophet answered. ‘Fear not that for they that be with u are more than they that be with them.’” 2 Kings 6:16 (NIV)

One phone call and my life smashed into a pile of dust easily blown away by shock and unbelief. In a moment, my trust in God was tested as never before. Could I trust Him with this?

Trusting God would absolutely be easier if we could see Him and His angel armies face to face. But even though we can’t see the physical realm, we can trust they’re in the spiritual realm — a realm more powerful that anything we could ever imagine. Even while we don’t see God at work, we can be certain He is.

How do we build the trust capacity?

God shows us a powerful glimpse into that spiritual realm in 2 Kings 6:8-18. Ancient Aram (modern-day Syria) was fighting the Israelite’s, and God used His prophet Elisha to predict how the Arameans would attack, to warn the Israelite army.

The Bible explains that this enraged the king of Aram, so he began plotting to attack the city and cut off Elisha from helping Israel.

But God stepped in and protected Elisha and his servant and even changed what they were allowed to see.

I’ve felt like this before. Haven’t you? Difficult circumstances press in from every side. “This is too much for me!” I cry, “I can’t do this anymore. I don’t even want to go out of my house. Where are You, God? You promised you would never leave me or abandon me, but I don’t sense your presence. Why aren’t you doing something? I want out of this story!”

Honest. Raw. Somewhat embarrassing to admit. Sensing the enemies all around, we’re surrounded by problems we cannot solve and people we cannot control.

Elisha’s servant probably felt the same way.

His faith was as flimsy as the tent flaps he stood behind. Elisha’s was as strong as the tent peg anchoring the canvas in place.

“‘Don’t be afraid,’ the prophet answered. ‘he who is with us is more than he who is with them’” (2 Kings 6:16).

Did you catch that? Do not be afraid. God is greater.

How can we do better in trusting God during trying times? By remembering, “Those who are with us are more than those who are with them” (v. 16b). Elisha knew there was more power and strength in the unseen reality of the heavenly host than the seen reality of the enemy’s army.

Elisha didn’t pray for God to send an army, because the warring angels on chariots of fire were already there. Elisha simply prayed his servant would be allowed to see them at work.

I always pictured the angel armies and Arameans on opposite hillsides, looking down and squaring off. But that’s not what the Bible says. In reality, the enemies surrounded Elisha in a circle. At the same time, the warring angels were surrounding the enemies — a circle around a circle.

Friend, God is surrounding whatever difficult situation is surrounding you. Jesus painted this same picture in John 14:20 when He said, “I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you” (NIV).

God most likely won’t pull back the curtain separating the physical realm from the spiritual realm for us to see, but we can be assured: We’re surrounded by a heavenly host of angels, ready to protect us in our deepest struggles.

Lord, open my eyes so I might see what is already there. Open my heart so I might believe what is already there. Strengthen my faith so I might trust that You are surrounding what is surrounding me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

 

 


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How to Find and Fulfill Your Destiny

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What does God require you to do with your life? Are you fulfilling destiny?

If you’re not yet certain about what fortune God has for you, the answer doesn’t have to remain a mystery any longer. By seeking a closer relationship with your Creator, you can determine and fulfill what He has created you to do.

Here’s how to find and fulfill your destiny:

Rethink why it’s significant to start living according to your destiny: Living out your destiny will give you greater fulfillment, concentration, firmness, significance, identity, and provision in your life. Don’t settle for less than the greatest God has for you, which is to discover and fulfill your destiny every day that you live.

Don’t confuse business with purpose: While it’s honorable working for God, ensure that you’re seeking God’s will for your work rather than just hopping into activities that seem to be valuable. Too often, people dedicate their time and energy on activities that are good but don’t reflect God’s purposes for their lives. Decide to seek God’s guidance for your life every day.

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Measure what you do according to what God has created you to do. Have a rethink whether or not to pursue some activities on the basis of how they will or won’t help you fulfill your destiny. Keep in mind that your fate is “the modified life calling God has bestowed and fortified you to accomplish in order to bring Him the highest glory and achieve the maximum enlargement of His kingdom.”

View yourself as God sees you: You are being created by God as a masterpiece, and that’s how he sees you. As a masterpiece, you are: exceptional, distinct, valuable, titled, and recognized. Ask the Holy Spirit to prompt you of that every day, to help you live with assurance.

Seek God’s kingdom first in your life: Place your relationship with God at the center of your life and turn everyone and everything else around it. Once you make it your top priority to follow God, you won’t have to fight to find your destiny, because God will reveal it to you in the perspective of your growing relationship with Him. So make God the central focus of your feelings, activities, wants, time, endowments, and treasures, and expect Him to make miracles out of even the messes in your life.

Don’t discriminate between sacred and secular work: Understand that God has called all believers in all professions to improve His realm on Earth through their work. God can use your work in any field to achieve powerful aims that have eternal value. Make a word to God that you will do all of your work – whatever it is – with excellence to serve Him every day. View yourself in the workplace as one of God’s ambassadors.

Trust in God’s authority: Since nothing occurs without God’s consent, he is all-powerful and completely loving; God has a decent purpose for allowing every difficult condition into your life. Whenever you experience something confusing or painful, choose to trust God in the midst of the condition, and ask Him to show you how to respond to it in ways that best fulfill His purposes.

Ask God to unveil your passion and help you attach it with eternity: God has made you with precise yearnings and motivations; paying attention to those will help you realize what you’re passionate about. Question yourself such as: “What is my attraction?” “What makes me feel alive?” “What work can I do?” Once you’ve recognized what you’re passionate about, reflect how your passion connects to eternal values, such as those that the Bible describes. Pray about your passion, asking God to show you how you can follow it in ways that will increase His kingdom on Earth.

Move onward one step at a time: Don’t wait to act on the guidance that God gives you about how to fulfill your destiny. God’s assistance will frequently come gradually, rather than coming in a dramatic image that shows you everything you should do far into the future. Rather than allowing your partial knowledge limit you, respond to God on the basis of what you do know, trusting that God will continue to guide you step by step to embolden you to stay closely connected to Him.

Develop and use your natural talents and spiritual gifts: Ask God to help you recognize the gifts He has given you to use in the world and the gifts He has given you to use in the church. Once you know what these are, target to use them as fully as you can every day, and as you serve you will be accomplishing your destiny in the process.

Make the most of your time: Every day that God offers you on Earth has valuable opportunities for you to achieve your destiny as much as you can. So maximize your time by offering yourself as a living sacrifice for God every day, ready to say “yes” to whatsoever He may call you to do.

Dedicate yourself fully to God: Rather than chasing your own plans, seek God’s will and do your best to follow it in every part of your life, without holding anything back. You can do this best by welcoming the Holy Spirit to renovate your mind daily, enable you to change views that don’t replicate God’s truth with ones that do.

Unite with God as He trains you to depend on Him: Don’t fight God’s efforts to strip you of self-sufficient habits that disprove the healthy reliance God wants you to develop on Him. Have in mind that you can do much more while depending on God than you can ever do on your own. Recognize that your purpose will always be bigger than you, so you must learn how to rely on God to help you fulfill it.

Improve a routine of worship: When you approach every condition in your life with an attitude of worship (honoring God), you will start to identify God at work in your life and place yourself to hear from the Holy Spirit frequently, which will help you accomplish your destiny.

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Aim to work for God’s exaltation rather than yours: Keep in mind that the definite purpose of fulfilling your destiny is for God to be glorified on Earth, leading people to seek Him and find redemption and restoration through Him. Check your reasons for your work often. Ask God to root self-centered motives out of your life and keep you concentrated on what matters most for infinity: serving God.

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